“Confidence brings the natural dignity of gentleness. You can afford to be gentle. You are not pretending to be gentle in order to achieve something by it, but you have a general sense of gentleness, which means you are being kind to yourself. ”
Who is being gentle with themselves when failing? Who is being gentle on the one who is winning?
I stare into the mirror and see a bunch of people straining;
they are fixed and focused
attention set for success,
standing on one leg and convinced it’s a stable base!
They are red in the face and proud
without a flicker of the now.
How did we get to the place where
falsehood and delusion become intoxicating?
The pit of sophisticated martyrdom
needs peace and friendship found deep within,
finding this tranquil place is our birthright saving grace
and it only requires gentleness to save face.
Humor becomes the only hand worth reaching
when drenched in the sweat of a self fulfilling prophecy
It’s where the laugh of reasoning is residing,
the humor of the contradictory circus clown
revolving round and round
and only when we fall to the ground,
do we hear the sound of the ocean tides stilling the ferris wheel of our mind.
Still peering into the mirror with a room full of people’s reflecting faces,
I see my own smiling face,
a smile from my eyes,
a smile from my heart,
a smile from her mouth,
a woman’s smile, i’ll take bets, is the single most healing,
so why do I see so much caddy competing?
When competitive spirit is focused extrinsically, we are failing.
Competing is fun and healthy
when attention is focused on improving the self intrinsically and asking:
How do I or can I actualize my full potential in this game of life? How can I get to the place of confidence and being competent with humility by my side?
Going back in time, I’m at a track field deep within my mind.
I’m watching a high school girl as she trains during the cold season with her team.
She is under nourished without a coach who believes in taking the time to care for her needs.
Regardless, she is aware of her own limitations and continues to pursue with a fierce look of determined will and gratitude.
She runs inline behind her effortless, long legged born to be track and field queens.
She is at the end where her team deemed she belongs, yet this doesn't stop her from feeling a sense of achievement.
She is astute and does not compare herself to her beautiful mates.
She is wise allying and aligning to the natural laws that spread success and happiness;
in her mind, she repeats the Latin words:
Con petire, con petire
Lets seek together and share,
gentleness with yourself is an essential part of success.
“To overcome the anxieties and depression of contemporary life, individuals must become independent of the social environment to the degree that they no longer respond exclusively in terms of its rewards and punishments. To achieve such autonomy, a person has to learn to provide rewards to herself. She has to develop the ability to find enjoyment and purpose regardless of external circumstances.”
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